In my previous blog you'll read about change and the first steps for having a happy life. In this blog I will take you with me on the road of living life in de circle. Have fun reading!
Living life in a circle
“Radars, you know, those things that are on clocks and compasses, that just go round and round, and go on and on and don't stop? I'm fascinated by radars; you may wonder why… Well it is because I recognize myself in them. I am not capable in letting go the circle either. It is a continuous process of falling in deep valleys and climbing high mountains.” This is what ‘Jolene’ said to me during an interview about her lifestyle.
Why do so many people say they want to change, but somehow are not succeeding? It is a question that I have looked into. As I already said in my previous blogpost, change happens outside you, as external trigger, but with every change, you need to make a transition yourself.
How is it that those beautiful women I interviewed are motivated to change, but they keep on losing themselves in a cycle? In this blogpost I will tell you more about circular behaviour.
People live in a certain way, with the result that they behave in a certain way, which in turn has its consequences as well. In this case, we talk about vicious cycles. Vicious cycles are fateful cycles of cause and effect that keep returning to the situation one wanted to leave. Looking at the story of Jolene, I created the cycle which you can see in figure 1. This cycle shows the process of women who want to change. Going from unhealthy eating to a negative self-image, resulting in a deep valley, in which the strength is or has to be found to live healthier again. The lifestyle changed totally, but as soon as something external happens again, they fall back in the same cycle.
Vicious cycle of anxiety
I believe this cycle is affected by and can relate to the vicious cycle of anxiety, because when someone has negative thoughts, self-confidence will deteriorate. Resulted in a growth of the negative thoughts and a change that will never work out. The essence of anxiety is worrying about some potential threat. It is trying to cope with a future event that you think will be negative. You do this by paying more attention to possible signs of potential threat and looking internally to see whether you will be able to cope with that threat. When noticing the ‘anxious’ symptoms, you think that you can’t cope with the situation, and therefore become more anxious. This is the start of the vicious cycle of anxiety (Government of Western Australia, department of health, 2018). Looking at vicious cycles, it may seem as a never-ending process. Take someone with obesity for example. In the news he hears that people with obesities are more vulnerable to cardiovascular diseases. Two days later, he feels pressure and stabs in his chest. He becomes anxious, because he is afraid that he has a cardiovascular disease. Due to the stress, he starts to eat (emotion eating), and so, the cycle continues. What I ask myself, why is someone starting to ‘emotion eat’, even though he knows the consequences? That brought me to the influence of habits.
The connection to ‘habits’
Habits are defined as behaviours that are performed with a minimum of thinking. Every person has good and bad habits. We speak of bad habits when someone is aware that the current habit is adding to possible negative long-term outcomes, so in the earlier mention example: emotion eating. However, that may not affect doing it, because the satisfaction of the direct outcome is overruling. These bad habits have consequences for the longer run. In figure 1 is shown that than someone finds the courage again to change, but then when something externally happens, the cycle will repeat (Jager, 2003). That makes me wonder if the link with a certain situation is so strong, that the satisfaction of the performance of the habit wins over the knowledge that it is not good for the long term.
Existence of a habit
The stronger the habit is interlinked in the automatic behaviour, the more difficult it is to change behaviour. This depends on situations, environments and also the way the habit has formed. When a specific trigger is recognised in an external situation, someone appeals to the bad habit, instead of comparing and elaborating the available options. To change, it is needed to find out where this trigger came from. In all cases the habit has been performed for the first time at a given moment. The raise of a habit is divided in the following three stages (figure 2):
First, the habit is cognitive processed, where people encode and safe the information in their memory to keep it available for future actions. Second, the person actually brings the cognitive information in practice. Third, the habit has been formed. (Jager, 2003).
Satisfaction of a habit
Besides, knowing how a habit came to its existence, we want to understand how the outcomes relate to the emergence of a habit. Therefore, we have to understand how basic human needs are being satisfied. Habits namely give outcomes that relate to a certain need, which gives the satisfaction when performing the habit. According to the work of Marshall B. Rosenberg and Mandred Max-Neef, nine needs are developed. Which are; autonomy, meaning, substance, protection, rest, understanding, interdepence, compassion and play (Wiens, 2010). So, looking at the example of the man with obesity, the bad habit is emotion eating. This satisfies the short term need of sustenance but will lack, for example, on the long term need for rest, because the negative emotion is not solved, but postponed. Or the need for autonomy, the feeling of not having control of your choices, because the solid patterns win from the will to change them.
Now we know that if we are stuck in a vicious cycle it is difficult to get out due to the bad habits which are part of the cause of being in the cycle. So, is the habit so strong interlinked to certain situations, that satisfaction wins over the known that it is not good for the long term? I think it is not, but that it depends on the level of the need which overrules. So yes, external triggers encouraging bad habits, but that is to satisfy a certain need.
That makes me wonder if the link with a certain situation is so strong, that the satisfaction of the performance of the habit wins over the knowledge that it is not good for the long term.
Change of a habit
How is it possible to break such a habit/cycle then? Well the easiest way is to just not give people the opportunity to act out the bad habit, for example eliminating all the unhealthy food in supermarkets. However, as you could understand that would be an unrealistic and really expensive solution. So, what then would be a solution? One way to change the habit and break the cycle is to make people remove their current actions related to the bad habit to stimulate other behaviours. For example, by providing positive information for the desired outcomes related to other behaviours, compared with clear information of the negative outcome of the current habit. Another solution could be making the current positive direct outcomes, unsatisfying, which makes the person start thinking in other ways to satisfy the need, to then provide alternative behaviours which also are focused on short-term positive outcomes, the person will try them. These short-term satisfactions then will also roll out into long term satisfactions and a new, but then positive cycle (Jager, 2003).
So, if you want to break the cycle, you need to find out what need is satisfied by the involved bad habits. To then be able to find alternative behaviour to fulfil the needs. This might help to change behaviour and to life the desired lifestyle. Looking to my project and my own perspective, I would say this; always follow your heart and be aware of your own circle. Try to step out of this circle and observate what will happen.
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Government of Western Australia, department of health. (2018). The vicious cycle of anxiety. Opgehaald van Centre for clinical interventions:
Jager, W. (2003, January). Breaking 'bad' habits: a dynamical perspective on habit formation and change. Opgeroepen op April 7, 2020, van Research Gate: https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Wander_Jager/publication/251477649_Breaking_%27bad_habits%27_a_dynamical_perspective_on_habit_formation_and_change/links/0deec53b4f882d03b0000000/Breaking-bad-habits-a-dynamical-perspective-on-habit-formation-and-chang
Wiens, C. C. (2010). Universal Qualities of Our One Life Together. Opgeroepen op April 2020, van ZENVC.ORG: https://secureservercdn.net/188.8.131.52/8n5.8f8.myftpupload.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/needs-wheel.pdf